Wednesday, 14 September 2016

Happiness Tip - Cut out all negative people in your life - (even if you are related to them)

This part of the statement/quote, "You can choose your friends but you sho' can't choose your family", made by Harper Lee, sure rings true! We indeed cannot unfortunately pick our families. 

Sometimes we get lucky and are born into amazing families with amazing people in them, and other times we don't quite hit the jackpot. 

Some families are so horrid that the people in them treat each other worse than enemies would. Jealousy being the biggest factor here I have seen. It is so sad to think that members of our own families would be so jealous of us that they would try and make our lives a living hell just for the sake of feeling better about themselves. 

Unfortunately, however, we cannot change this and our families are still our families and we are meant to love, honour and respect them no matter what...... Right? WRONG! 

Today I am going to tell you something that just might change your life forever. Yes, it is true that our families are our blood, our kin. However, this does not mean you have to automatically just like/love everyone in your family and take all their crap. 

Our Makers intention for us is to live a good, wholesome life and even though families are huge in the bible and all sorts of religions for that matter, I seriously doubt our Creator would want us to keep negative elements in our lives. 

Look at it this way. Say for example you are someone who was severely abused as a child (mentally/emotionally or physically), do you think it would be expected of you to just get over this fact and treat your parents as if they are the world's best parents? I think not. It would be much healthier for you to just cut them out so that you can truly heal. Now I know some radical cult type religion followers will strongly disagree with this statement, but if you have ever read the whole bible (or any holy scripture/book for that matter), and put all the pieces together, you will realise that it DOES in fact boil down to the following:

1. Do not commit murder/rape
2. Live a good, wholesome life in which you are fair to others
3. Do not steal
4. Have respect for nature and all living things
5. Have respect for yourself and your body
6. Acknowledge and be grateful towards your maker

The list is in no way extensive, it is just an example given of the just of things. It is simple. If it is good, do it/follow it. If it is negative, cut it out. This includes ALL people who are making your life hell. 

We all in anyhow know that blood is not what makes a family. So many people have the world's greatest parents, siblings or extended families, even though they share no DNA with each other. What makes a real family, is true, unselfish love. 

So next time, for example, you achieve a great feat in life and someone in your "family" breaks you down instead of praising you for it, remember this article/posting and do the following:

Step 1 - smile broadly
Step 2 - ignore all statements
Step 3 - block that person out of your life for good
Step 4 - notice how much more stress free, calm and relaxing your life becomes

We are all precious like diamonds. Therefore we deserve to surround ourselves with gold, and not mud (even if we come from the same mine as where the mud is laying).


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